What is your Value Tag?
- itsabiinspired
- Nov 13, 2019
- 4 min read
Sisters, it’s high time you placed a “Value Tag” on yourself!!!!
Dear sister, have you ever wondered why “some” people will only get in touch with you only when it fits them and only when it benefits them. Have you ever wondered why it happens like that or why you have taken it as a “normal” thing to happen to you?
Let me be honest with you, a person will only treat you according to how you have allowed them to. Let me give you a scenario: Imagine this guy at your workplace passes a sexual comment on how you are looking “Ohhh Jessy you look really sexy today, wow I wish I could see more of that sexiness everyday girl” and you, as Jessy simply smile it away because you think “oh wow, someone finds me attractive” Well… to start with, there’s nothing nice to smile about to such a sexual comment passed on you because you know what? If that male workmate found you attractive, he would have been a gentleman about it and simply say “Jessy you look beautiful” and that is exactly how gentlemen talk.
Well, before I lose track, how about we talk about the scenario I am giving? Here is the thing, once you smile to such a sexual comment and you find nothing wrong with it, do you know what will happen? Trust me, you will receive such sexual comments from that person over and over again and it will put you in a place where you will be comfortable to receive such comments meaning he has conquered you emotionally which will make it very easy for him to conquer you physically as well. “I mean you are a woman, once your emotional part gets defeated, it would be difficult for you to separate yourself physically for him.” quite the opposite from men, right?
So you have been emotionally conquered at this point, the next thing he may want to do, is to now get physical with you. He may pretend to accidentally bump into you with an excuse of “oh sorry Jessy, I did not see you” with a smile on his face and you will let it go and before you realize it you will be in his bed, helplessly giving yourself to him.
Now everything looks beautiful to you because your name has even been changed, he no longer calls you by your name but “Hey Sexy” and just that makes you feel beautiful and wanted… But just wait a minute Sister, Does he only asks to meet up with you all the time you receive that call from him saying “sexy I miss you, can we meet?” and does the meeting always end up with you dropping your undies for him? Should I make you understand what is happening at this point sister girl? Yes!! Even though you try so hard to convince yourself that you are not his “booty call” but just some beautiful girl he finds sexy and attractive, trust me I would have loved to make you believe likewise as well, but No! I won’t lie to my sister just to make her feel better, instead, I will tell her the truth so that she makes an informed decision with a clear mind on her own.
So in black and white, he may really see you as his booty call. He only calls you because he wants to sleep with you and that is why the only long conversation you can hold with him is all centered on sex.
Remember I am not telling you all this to make you feel bad, but in wanting to remind you of your VALUE!!! I want to remind you that you do not have to sleep with someone in order to feel attractive and beautiful. Trust me, girl, you are so beautiful because you know why? You are created in the image of God, fearfully and wonderfully made. Stop waiting on validation of your beauty from people, believe in yourself that you are beautiful because you are.
How about we quickly get back to our scenario as we wrap up? Do you know you could have avoided getting to the point of being his booty call from the start? Yes from that very first day he passed a sexual comment on you. You would have said “Thanks, but I do not appreciate the choice of your words, and I would be happy if I never ever get such from you again” and that is what you should say whenever comments that you are not comfortable with are passed on you because it makes a person who said them realize that you are a “No nonsense” type of a woman and you deserve some respect.
We are talking about “Value price tag” right? Well, that is how you add your value tag on yourself sister, just like that and people will treat you according to that value price tag placed on you by yourself.
“If I loved a handbag worth 50 Euros yet I only have 20 Euros, I will not buy that handbag because the price tag and my money are not speaking the same language. And that is how Value tag works”
And in all this, remember to hold on to God and he will never leave nor forsake you. Psalm 46:5 “God is within her, she will not fall; God will help her at the break of day.” Much love Sisters.
(Proverbs 31:25 she is clothed with strength and dignity, and she laughs without fear of the future.)
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